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Linda

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How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« on: April 22, 2010, 04:01:21 PM »
This is an issue I have seen discussed and wondered how many have wanted to relocate and the spouse wants to stay put?  I get resistance when I approach that subject myself. What if you feel absolutely compelled to go and your spouse won't budge. Maybe we can help each other out on how to handle this.

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #1 on: April 23, 2010, 08:05:36 AM »
Linda, just want to say this is a worthwhile subject.
I don't have a husband so again, won't be saying much.
I empathize with those who feel strongly that it is time to move forward, and then their spouse doesn't want to do that. At least
not yet...
One thought that popped into my mind -
Maybe the couple who doesn't agree on relocating can sit down and make an agreement on "what if" scenarios. The one who
doesn't want to move would respond to the question, "what if" such and such happened would he then be willing to move...
Many people won't be willing to relocate until they see a large reddish object, almost the size
of the moon, up in the sky. Maybe the wife who feels this will happen can stash away the butter and egg money, work extra hours
and take steps to sell off assets and have a whole plan worked out -so that the lagging one can just say OK let's do your plan now...
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« Last Edit: April 23, 2010, 11:23:41 AM by Yowbarb »

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #2 on: April 23, 2010, 08:44:17 AM »
Many people won't be willing to relocated until they see a large reddish object, almost the size
of the moon, up in the sky.

This is the point we are at together......

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #3 on: April 23, 2010, 11:24:34 AM »
Pbandpk it's good you are together....
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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #4 on: April 23, 2010, 04:04:01 PM »
Thanks for the reply Barb and Pbandpk.

I think there will have to be a lot of compromising going on. I think it would be just as frustrating trying to convince other family members that are not spouses. Most of us have encountered issues with our children and relatives.

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #5 on: April 23, 2010, 08:49:26 PM »
Geez, and I think my kids are stubborn!

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #6 on: April 23, 2010, 09:30:30 PM »
I worry most for the elderly. More difficult than convincing your spouse to pack light and go is to convince an elder to leave his/her place and memories.

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #7 on: April 24, 2010, 05:52:56 AM »
Carlos, nice to hear from you.
I agree, the elderly really get rooted in. I would probably have to medicate and tie up my mother n law to get her to leave her home.  ;D  But I understand them, they feel secure in their surroundings, and they are more apt to trust what the news or other sources are telling them, which may not be as we know, in their best interest.

But I know with children, especially adult children, they do not like to think their parent is more in touch with reality than they are. It's that generational war going on all the time.

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #8 on: May 04, 2010, 11:26:44 AM »
Linda I can relate to that -the generational war... I have sort of side stepped it for awhile; its tiring...
A person will need to outsmart everyone.
Then get the full cooperation. - Yowbarb

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #9 on: May 04, 2010, 06:41:42 PM »
At this point, I blame myself for obviously not talking and explaining everything well enough. I absorb all the info you guys put forth. I will attempt to do a better job.

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #10 on: May 04, 2010, 07:20:35 PM »
Ed, we all do the best we can. You know the old saying."you can bring a horse to water, but you can't make em drink", or something very similar to that. ;D ha ha

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #11 on: May 04, 2010, 11:12:46 PM »
Linda I was going to post the first thing that came to mind involving the word horse ___ but thought better of it.
 ;)
Anyway best of luck to everyone leading their horses to water.

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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #12 on: May 05, 2010, 04:04:05 AM »
LOL Barb :)
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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #13 on: May 05, 2010, 06:31:28 AM »
Marlowe Woodcuts,
Item Name: Stubborn (Horse being led)
Item Number: 820


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Re: How does your spouse feel about relocating?
« Reply #14 on: May 05, 2010, 09:52:49 AM »
There has to be an entrance into her mind, and I must locate it. Otherwise, it is like she has her own magnetosphere, deflecting my attempts to really discuss matters at length.

 

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