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Starting Over
« on: June 03, 2018, 08:09:00 AM »
Your guide to starting all over after a disaster

http://bugout.news/2018-05-15-your-guide-to-starting-all-over-after-a-disaster.html

As a prepper, you’re probably used to anticipating disasters and making the necessary preparations to ensure that you survive them.

But when SHTF, are you mentally prepared to start over?

When disaster strikes you’ll have to face a daunting task: Rebuilding your life from the ground up. You’ll also have to deal with property loss along with possible emotional trauma and financial concerns.

Before you can start over, you’ll need to prepare yourself mentally. After any disaster, the first thing you need to do is to get yourself and your family to safety. Once everyone’s safe, try to secure other valuable items. The second step involves some prep time because as a prepper, you always prepare for survival scenarios before they happen. (Related: Mental preparedness: How to think like a survivalist.)

Inventories and salvaging your property

To ensure that your family can start over, prepare a detailed inventory before SHTF. Go through every room in your property and document everything you own. Update your records when necessary.

Regardless of your chosen format (a notebook or an app), take note of the following in your inventory:

Date of inventory
Item and serial number (when applicable), date of purchase, item price, if the item was a gift or a personal purchase, and estimated replacement value.
Name/s of the person doing inventory. This is required when placing an insurance claim, along with statements of condition or storage of valuables.
Photos of each room and individual photos of high-value items.
What building/room is being inventoried.

Dealing with emotional trauma

You can restore or replace your property, but how do you deal with the emotional wreckage of a disaster?

In the worst-case scenario, we might lose those we hold dear such as our family and friends or treasured keepsakes. To stay emotionally stable so we can support our loved ones, we must learn more about the five stages of grief.

We all have our own way of coping with grief, and this may affect how we respond before and after SHTF.

The five stages of grief are:

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
No matter what kind of loss we experience, humans must deal with grief. Some may be able to express their grief externally, while others may process it internally. Not everyone goes through these stages at the same speed, time, or in the same way. Others may experience the stages of grief in a different order, or they may go through some stages more than once.

The key to handling stress and trauma after SHTF is by being resilient. You can do this by practicing the “five characteristics of resiliency:” Being positive, focused, flexible, proactive, and organized.

Max.
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Re: Starting Over
« Reply #1 on: June 11, 2018, 11:40:05 PM »
Your guide to starting all over after a disaster

http://bugout.news/2018-05-15-your-guide-to-starting-all-over-after-a-disaster.html

As a prepper, you’re probably used to anticipating disasters and making the necessary preparations to ensure that you survive them.

But when SHTF, are you mentally prepared to start over?

When disaster strikes you’ll have to face a daunting task: Rebuilding your life from the ground up. You’ll also have to deal with property loss along with possible emotional trauma and financial concerns.

Before you can start over, you’ll need to prepare yourself mentally. After any disaster, the first thing you need to do is to get yourself and your family to safety. Once everyone’s safe, try to secure other valuable items. The second step involves some prep time because as a prepper, you always prepare for survival scenarios before they happen. (Related: Mental preparedness: How to think like a survivalist.)

Inventories and salvaging your property

To ensure that your family can start over, prepare a detailed inventory before SHTF. Go through every room in your property and document everything you own. Update your records when necessary.

Regardless of your chosen format (a notebook or an app), take note of the following in your inventory:

Date of inventory
Item and serial number (when applicable), date of purchase, item price, if the item was a gift or a personal purchase, and estimated replacement value.
Name/s of the person doing inventory. This is required when placing an insurance claim, along with statements of condition or storage of valuables.
Photos of each room and individual photos of high-value items.
What building/room is being inventoried.

Dealing with emotional trauma

You can restore or replace your property, but how do you deal with the emotional wreckage of a disaster?

In the worst-case scenario, we might lose those we hold dear such as our family and friends or treasured keepsakes. To stay emotionally stable so we can support our loved ones, we must learn more about the five stages of grief.

We all have our own way of coping with grief, and this may affect how we respond before and after SHTF.

The five stages of grief are:

Denial
Anger
Bargaining
Depression
Acceptance
No matter what kind of loss we experience, humans must deal with grief. Some may be able to express their grief externally, while others may process it internally. Not everyone goes through these stages at the same speed, time, or in the same way. Others may experience the stages of grief in a different order, or they may go through some stages more than once.

The key to handling stress and trauma after SHTF is by being resilient. You can do this by practicing the “five characteristics of resiliency:” Being positive, focused, flexible, proactive, and organized.

Max.

Max, great post,
Thank You. :)
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5 Stages of Grief
« Reply #2 on: June 16, 2018, 03:35:31 AM »
Elisabeth Kübler-Ross introduced the idea of 5 Stages of Grief after research into terminally ill patients. Initially, therefore, it's about the grief and coming to grips with imminent death, i.e. it's not about loss, it's about loss of life.

Practically speaking, Kübler-Ross' findings are most important in understanding how people respond to the threat of a very different kind of death: that of the ego.
This particularly applies to people who have suffered authoritarian conditioning as infants and experience life from a survival point of view as a matter of course; when their authorities are threatened, they experience this as a life-or-death matter. Their conditioning has them fearing for their lives when the authoritative values in their lives are threatened.

Authorities in the lives of the masses are not just figures of authorities like doctors, police, government, etc. etc., but it's also the status quo, popular culture and ideas like 'common knowledge'. Independently thinking and feeling individuals may see such things as transcient or mundane, but to those suffering from the authoritarian trauma [i.e. some 75% of folks] they feel like life-and-death issues. And when they're threatened, they feel their lives are threatened. When things like the status quo are actually destroyed, the masses experience this as a coming of immiment death, like the kind Kübler-Ross researched.

Sane folk who were fortunate/lucky enough not to undergo the authoritarian programming during infancy [for whatever reason], may not experience the 5 Stages of Grief at all, even after great loss [or facing death, for that matter]. Then, instead of denial-aggression-bargaining-depression-acceptance, they can go straight to acceptance. It doesn't mean there's no pain or grief, it just means there's none of this traumatic dysfunctional madness on top of it.
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Re: Starting Over
« Reply #3 on: June 16, 2018, 06:36:13 AM »
I wonder if there is anything that can be done to heal that huge number of the traumatized?  I guess if we all think about it, we can probably remember at least one such incident in our lifetime. 

 

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« Reply #4 on: June 16, 2018, 03:42:47 PM »
I agree with everything Soc has said and re the issue of healing the traumatized ones, they might have to accept that they've had a distorted view of reality all along, and only when they realize this can they begin to heal.  Just 2 cents from an old goatherder....

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Starting Over; TEOTWAWKI or otherwise...
« Reply #5 on: June 17, 2018, 04:44:55 PM »
When you have a wound and it creates a scab, how gratifying it is to pick at the scab...
Unfortunately, as we all know, this just means the healing lasts that much longer. In fact, if the scratching at the scab never ends, all you end up with is a scar.
The mind is similar; most of us have traumas of some sort, but we scratch the scar and thereby allow the process of healing to last (longer). Psyche and body are similar in this way.

The 75%, however, have scars that go back into infancy, back into a stage of development that was preemotional and prerational. In fact, we're talking about a stage of development that was purely instinctual [i.e. like that of animals]. Therefore, when the scholarly professor goes ballistic and starts talking void of reason, what has actually taken place is that his primal/instinctual/infant mind [lying at the foundation of everything he is...] has been triggered and damn decades of learning and being, he'll damn well kowtow to instinct and woe to those in his way...


Popular culture prepares us for nothing of this, though it is very real to most people: when triggered, most people turn into beasts that defy all reason or consequence (no matter what we expect of them).
We all have 3 brains: our rational, emotion and instinctual. To popular culture, it's all the brain, but in real life, we are always all dealing with 3 inherently and fundamentally different aspects of our self. It's all human, though not by any standard of humanity the masses go by.

Having said all this, my point is that the 75% of traumatized individuals [i.e. during infancy] realize, and will realize, nothing. Ever. The conditioning and trauma is just too deep. Because it lies under emotional and rational development, neither emotion nor reason can reach said development.
On the other hand, the infant/primal/instinctual trauma can be healed. As a matter of fact, this can be accomplished quite quickly by a competent psychologist. Unfortunately, these are few and far between...

As the numbers of traumatized beings are in the billions, their influence on society, government and culture are immense.
You can save yourself, but it is futile to be busy about any healing of the masses of billions just waiting for someone to trigger their infant conditioning.
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Re: Starting Over
« Reply #6 on: June 18, 2018, 05:37:12 AM »
Thanks for the in-depth reply Socrates. 

More musings:

Is the prevalence of infancy trauma in our world strictly a function of 3D, and will it be eliminated in future generations of children as we ascend, for those anchoring Heaven on earth and not flying off to some other location (per the end of the Book of Revelation, which seems to indicate an improved continuation of life on earth)?

In your reference to expedited healing by a competent psychologist, do you mean the method of entrained eye contact used in Attachment Theory?
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory

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Re: healing the authoritarian trauma
« Reply #7 on: June 18, 2018, 05:28:58 PM »
In your reference to expedited healing by a competent psychologist, do you mean the method of entrained eye contact used in Attachment Theory?
No, but that doesn't mean that won't work.
In Alice Miller's works she mentions that a competent psychologist or psychoanalyst would avoid playing the authority card, thereby triggering the very conditioning that needs to be transcended. Unfortunately, her field is as much troubled by such forces as most others. When she realized this, she turned her back on psycho analysis.

If someone can detach from cultural authoritarian pressures [peers, authorities, in all forms] and be drawn into expressing their deep-rooted traumas, healing is possible [again, just like the body will heal a wound if let be]. In everyday life, however, people's social situation usually constantly triggers their infant conditioning and healing doesn't take place.

There must be many ways of supporting the healing of the mind, for in the end the quest is to allow the mind to heal itself. Whatever brings this about is beneficial, just like whatever triggers the authoritarian conditioning is not.
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« Reply #8 on: June 18, 2018, 07:02:38 PM »
In Tilda Norberg's pastoral counseling technique (taught in Consenting to Grace), the physical body always holds a memory of any psychological trauma, and often "speaks" in hidden ways until noticed.  She gets to the root of the trauma by asking the client to allow the affected body part to have a voice, and the results can be amazing as well as moving.

 

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